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posted by: teatimeturtle (reply) post date: 06.18.04 (7:30 am) I was going to say that it depends on who it is who made the inappropriate joke. That if it was a friend, or someone that you knew didn't mean any offense by it, a simple 'dude, that was weak' would suffice. But then I thought, 'well what kind of friends do you have if they're making inappropriate comments like that' and I tried to think of whether any of the people I hang around with behave in such a manner. Since this scenario originated with the jerky guy/sensitive girl personas and I have so often found myself the only girl hanging out with a bunch of guys (not that they're jerks or that I'm overly sensitive..), I realized that I have been in this situation many times and that there have, on occasion, been inappropriate comments. I can't say that they've made me feel uncomfortable, because I know the guys generally aren't jerks so it's usually just gone unchecked (except for the occasional sigh or eye-rolling), but I think that it would be a different story if it was a guy that you'd just met because he would then be labelled a big-time-jerk/asshole/insensitive bastard. I guess what I mean is that there needs to be a certain level of comfort or understanding established before jokes that may be construed as inappropriate to some, can be unleashed. It's like how Chris Rock can joke about black people, but a white guy can't. Or something. posted by: kurmidt (reply) post date: 06.18.04 (8:04 am) i agree with ttt, i'll add that if it's a friend and you reply with something funny, it doesn't let that person know that you're offended, however, if you say something serious or even nothing, then i think it should clue them in, especially if you're known to say funny things. btw, i bot-this-blog'ed you and it didn't work. boo to that. posted by: Lisa (reply) post date: 06.19.04 (8:39 am) I always *want* to say something funny (in a crushing kind of tone) but funny and uncomfortable rarely go hand in hand for me. Pointed silence is sometimes a good option. It also depends on the level of discomfort. |
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